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What a Cute Couple

April 29, 2013

This weekend, my mom got remarried. Two families joined late in life by two octogenarians who were in love.

The seven children frequently commented during the festivities, “We’ve never seen our mom (or dad) act this way before.” We know they are over 80, but they sure seem to be acting like they are 18! They seem to make up excuses to do things together. They can’t wait to call us and share what they were up to. They exchange loving glances. They snuggle. They walk each other to the car before going home at night. They text, sent emails, and leave love notes. What can we say? They are in love!

As I speculated about how come I was seeing someone I had never seen before, a thought struck me. I had never known my mom before she had a child. By the time I had any awareness of who she was or how she behaved, she had a job, a family, a home, and a mortgage. She and Vern have both walked for over 50 years with their first spouse and known the fullness of “in sickness and in health.”

But now, the only thing she has is Vern. Not that any of us feel neglected or left out, it is just that they have found each other in a season of life where they can be fully invested in a relationship. That is what they live for.

Picture Courtesy of April Haberman

Vern and Anna
Picture Courtesy of April Haberman

For all these years, we have looked to them for advice on budgeting, vocation, cooking, and cleaning and rarely thought of them as advisors about a romantic relationship. As we have been lamenting the transition where children begin to provide care for their parents, we had to add worry about them getting into an ‘inappropriate’ relationship to our list of jobs. But they flipped the table and have shown us what love really looks like. They have made each other the singular focus of life and have dedicated themselves to serving one another. They are demonstrating for us unconditional love and deep commitment. If you see them walking hand in hand, will you join me in saying, “What a cute couple!”?

4 Comments leave one →
  1. April 29, 2013 9:52 AM

    Thanks, Phil, for sharing something so beautiful and so beautifully reflected upon

  2. April 29, 2013 10:27 AM

    Phil, indeed, they are a cute couple. And, what a truly special ceremony that I feel blessed to have been able to witness.

  3. Don permalink
    April 29, 2013 6:50 PM

    Here here Phil! Thanks for sharing your perfect perspective. How true for nearly all of us that we never knew our parents before they had all the obligations and responsibilities of family and making a living. May God bless Vern and Aunt Anna as they embark on this new chapter in their lives. What a cute couple indeed!

  4. Wim permalink
    April 30, 2013 12:56 AM

    thanks for sharing, Phil!

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